If you want to build a life that counts, here are 3 D’s you need to consider.
First, Determine Your Direction
Too many people have absolutely no idea where they’re headed in life. They spin and sputter, drift over here and then over there, hoping that somehow they’ll magically end up with a purposeful and productive life. But as we all know, it doesn’t work that way.
To live and leave the kind of legacy we want, we have to first determine who we want to become and what we want to accomplish and then set our compass accordingly.
I was fortunate enough to write a personal life’s mission statement when I was in my early 30’s, which has guided me well these last 25 plus years. It’s like a rope that pulls everything else in my life forward; my roles, my goals, the allocation of my time, what I read and study, the decisions I make, what I say yes or no to and etc.
So if your serious about building a life that counts then determining your direction and setting your life’s compass accordingly is the first-must step. (Click here for a free download of my life’s mission statement.)
Second, Deal With Distractions
My wife and I have some friends who have a King Charles Spaniel named Caycee. I’m not a qualified animal psychologist, but even as an amateur, I’m certain Caycee has attention-deficit-disorder. Every time we’re at our friend’s house having a meal or enjoying a conversation, Caycee will invariably run into the room, slide across the hardwood floor, and start barking.
The first time we experienced this unusual scene we had no idea what was going on. But after seeing her crazy antics a few more times, we finally figured it out – Caycee is obsessed with chasing shiny objects. Whether it’s a reflection shining on the wall or a light bouncing off the ceiling, Caycee will run into the room barking, and like a motorized merry-go-round, start spinning in circles.
When it comes to building a life that counts, many of us are a bit like Caycee – we tend to chase shiny objects and spin in circles. Yet to live and leave the kind of legacy we want, we must deal with the daily distractions that come our way. If not, we’ll end up like Caycee – spinning and spinning and spinning in cirlces, going nowhere.
Third, Embrace Discipline
Research shows that the primary difference between people who are “successful” to those who aren’t, isn’t IQ, or education, or pedigree, or ethnicity, or even opportunity.
What separates people who are successful from those who aren’t is primarily one thing, self-discipline.
Tom Landry – the legendary coach of the Dallas Cowboys – defined discipline as making yourself do something you don’t want to do so you can do something you’ve always wanted to do.
So whether it’s practicing a musical instrument or getting up two hours early to write your first novel, being willing to do the small things others aren’t willing to do – in the end will help you become the person you hope to become and accomplish the things you want to accomplish.
Let’s face it. There’s absolutely nothing more tragic in life than a wasted life. So, please, please don’t drift through life and then wake up one day to find out – well – to find out you’re dead.
Instead practice these three D’s and build a life that counts. In the end, you’ll be glad you did.
Ken L Roberts