Dallas Willard and My Dad

Next to my dad, Dallas Willard has been the most influential man in my life—especially in the last ten years or so. His writings came into my life at a time when I was re-thinking the basics of what it means to be a “christian” and what the nature and role of the Church should/could be. Then, by the grace of God and as a great, great gift to me, for two years (2010 through 2012) I was fortunate to sit under his teaching and first-hand receive from his head and from his heart.

In Dallas I saw someone who blended loving God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength like no one before. When Dallas walked into the room, you felt and saw the nature and presence of Christ at work. Dallas gave me hope that I could become like Jesus and renewed my hope in and for the church.

Some say history will one day record that Dallas has had as much effect on the Church as other notable thinkers, saints, and reformers like Calvin, Luther, Augustine, and many others before him. I don’t think that’s an overstatement.

Dallas’ passing only renews my commitment to be a thinker, writer, leader, teacher, shepherd—but most of all a lover of God and an apprentice of Christ. It is also my renewed commitment that within whatever years of life I have left, to faithfully influence others into the things Dallas taught me—both in his writings and his life.

My prayer is God give us more men and women like Dallas Willard!  

A man who is truly missed!


Legacy: What Are You Handing Off And To Whom?

The Beijing Olympics in 2008 were the first Chinese Olympics ever held.

There were many “firsts” in that particular Olympic, but one of the most unusual was the lack of any American runner on the podium after the relay races.

Relay running was first introduced into the Olympics in 1928, and TEAM USA had been on the podium at every Olympic since then, usually awarded the gold medal.

But there were none at all in Beijing.

Outside Jamaica, most of the fastest runners in the world that year were American, but most unusually they had no medalist in either the men’s or women’s 4×100 meters relay.


Again and again the spectators in Beijing and around the world heard the eerie sound of a hollow aluminum tube hitting the track.

The American runners had dropped the baton.

The US teams had the speed and the strength; they were brilliant individual runners, but they had not mastered the art of the handoff.*

The American malady at the Beijing Olympics is a parable of a far deeper problem affecting many of us today. As individuals and families, the question becomes, are we passing on our legacy from generation to generation?

How we answer this question has profound affect on how we live our personal lives, and how we nurture the values and traditions of our family — from generation to generation.  Each of us is an important link in a chain and what we do in our lives and with our lives directly affects our children, grandchildren, great grandchildren, and great, great grandchildren. And each of our legacies, yours and mine, blended together forms the very fabric of our society.

Unfortunately we have become a one-generation society.

Every generation (about a 30- to 40-year span) wants to discredit and distance themselves from the previous one and start their generation with a clean slat. But that’s a remedy for disaster.

We often think of legacy in terms of possession, money, or wealth. But as the old saying goes: the deepest things passed down in families do not appear in the will. Faith, Character, Values, Memories, Traditions, Continuity, Solidarity is what’s really passed down from generation to generation—sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse.

So the question is,

What are you and I doing in our lives and with our lives that we intentionally want to pass on to our family and our family’s family?

By God’s grace, and some purposeful thinking and really hard work, let’s not drop the baton. Generations are depending on it.

Living On Purpose,
Ken L Roberts

*Excerpt from Impossible People, by Os Guinness (one of the most thought-provoking books I’ve read in a long, long time).

How I So Relate To Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn (It’s not what you think)

Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn is considered by many to be the greatest Russian writer of the twentieth century. I wish I could relate to him on those grounds, but that’s not a reality.

I do relate to Solzhenitsyn, however, on his sense of “calling” and his urgency to fulfill that calling.

Here’s how and where Solzhenitsyn discovered his “calling”—in a very unlikely place!

For eight years Solzhenitsyn was sentenced to live in the Gulag—a Soviet concentration camp. It was during his imprisonment that Solzhenitsyn experienced a deadly struggle to write and, through a friendship with a Jewish follower, also became a follower of Jesus Christ. It was during these eight years of imprisonment where Solzhenitsyn experienced his call—what he explained as “a deepening burden to put the dying wishes of millions” on record.

Concerning this clarity of call, Solzhenitsyn writes:

The one worrying thing was that I might not be given time to carry out the whole scheme. (I so relate to this feeling in my life right now) I felt as though I was about to fill a space in the world that was meant for me and had long waited for me; a mold, as it were, made for me alone, but discerned by me only this very moment. I was a molten substance … to be poured into my mold, to fill it full … It was only later the true significance of what happened (the discovery of his call) would inevitably become clear to me, and I would be numb with surprise.

Of course I can’t relate with Solzhenitsyn’s experience in the Gulag, nor with his reputation as a brilliant thinker, writer, and revolutionist. Nor can I relate with his full head of hair or awesome beard. BUT I SO relate to his sense that he has a place in the world to fill (a purpose to fulfill) and his sense of urgency to fulfill it.

Let me ask you:

  • Do you know what space is in the world that’s waiting to be filled by you?
  • Do you have a sense of urgency to fill it?

I’m no Solzhenitsyn, but I do have a space in the world to fulfill, and I do have a strong urgency to fulfill.

What about you?

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Living ON Purpose,
Ken L Roberts


Material from the book Day By Day, by Peter Scazzero

Photo of Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn (cropped) from the Dutch National Archives licensed under CC BY-SA 3.0 NL  


Does This Temptation Trip You Up? It Does Me

I must confess, my biggest temptation isn’t watching porn, cheating on my taxes, or skimming money from our church’s ministry funds.

My biggest temptation is self-pity.

When things in life and ministry aren’t going the way I want, or the way I think they should, that’s when I start whining. I start having a good “oh, woe is me” pity party. I start feeling real sorry for myself. I want to just check out of life and go hide in a cave somewhere.

But over the years, here are three practical things I’ve learned to do to combat the slide into the black hole of self-pity.

  • Practice Gratitude:

I know this isn’t a new idea, but I’ve found so much power in the practice of gratitude. Anytime I’m starting to feel sorry for myself, I start making a list—either in my head or on a sheet of paper— of all the things I’m grateful for. Once I start doing this I’m reminded of just how much I do have. All the thoughts about what I don’t have or wish I had are replaced with all of what I do have, and the feelings of self-pity quickly fly away.

  • Serve Others:

At the root of self-pity is self-centeredness. When my world becomes all about me—what I want but don’t have, what I think should be going my way but isn’t, what I think should be working out for me but isn’t—that’s when self-pity starts hanging around my front door.

So when I start feeling self-pity, I look for ways to serve others. Whether that’s calling someone on the phone to say hello and ask how they are doing, or offering a helping hand to a friend or neighbor, or sending an e-mail to encourage someone, or helping my wife do the dishes or clean the house, or whatever it may be—when I take the focus off myself and put it on serving someone else, it closes the door to self-pity.

  • Take Action:

Victimization is a very close cousin to self-pity. When we are having self-pity and we start adding to that thoughts like, “I can’t do anything about what’s happening in my life,” or “My life’s not going in the direction I want it to go, and I don’t know what to do about it,” that’s self-pity leading us into a mentality of victimization.

But what I’ve learned is, when self-pity starts a conversation with me and wants to keep the conversation going, when I begin putting a specific plan in place to do something about the thing or situation that caused me to feel sorry for myself in the first place, well—then self-pity can’t stay around. When self-pity is sitting on your shoulder whispering in your ear, get up and do something. Put a plan in place, act on that plan, and self-pity will leave, guarantee!

Self-pity is my single biggest temptation in life.

What’s yours?

I’d love to hear your response. Please leave a comment below.


Building and Living A Life That Counts,
Ken L Roberts

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When P-E-R-S-E-V-E-R-A-N-C-E Pays Off

My wife is an artist. The picture above is her working on one of her paintings.

Every time she starts a new painting, there are two critical times in the process for her.

The first one is when she decides to start. It’s during this part of the process that that little voice starts yelling, “You can’t do this. You know the painting won’t turn out right. The dimensions will be wrong. The colors won’t work. Even if you do get started, you’ll never finish it.”

The second one is half way through the project. After my wife’s been working really hard on a painting, and it’s not coming together the way she wants, I’ve heard her on more than one occasion say, “I just can’t do this. It looks terrible. I’m going to throw the whole thing away.”

Sometimes, she’ll draw me into her own self-doubting dialogue and ask, “Honey, how do you think this looks? Do these colors work? Does the nose look right? Is this any good or should I just scrap it?”  I find this part of the conversation a scary place to be! Usually with a nod and a few affirming words, the painting is safe – at least for another day.

The key during these two crucial times in the process is for my wife to keep going.

One more stroke of the brush followed by another, followed by another. Try a different shade of color here; rework this part of the painting over there. Eventually, yes eventually, she finishes another beautiful painting.

The same is true in our own lives.  

We just have to keep going! Growth and greatness are always the result of a lot of hard work over a long period of time. In the end P-E-R-S-E-V-E-R-A-N-C-E always pays off.

When you think of Michael Phelps, who at the age of 27, became the most decorated Olympian of all time, you should remember that he logged hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of miles in the pool, stroke by stoke, day by day, and year by year, for twenty years – before he reached his status of “success.”

Building a life that counts is no different. It’s a step by step, day by day, line by line, season by season, year by year, decade by decade process. At the end our life won’t be perfect, but at least we’ve made progress we would have never made if we had never started or stopped in the middle. So keep at it! Perseverance pays.

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Living on Purpose,

Ken L Roberts





Something You Probably Don’t Know About Ruth Graham but Probably Should

When evangelist Billy Graham’s wife, Ruth Bell Graham, died in 2007, she chose to have engraved on her gravestone words that had nothing to do with her remarkable achievements.

She tells the story that she had been driving one day along a highway through a construction site, and there were miles of detours and cautionary signs and machinery and equipment. She finally came to this last one, and this final sign read, “End of construction. Thank you for your patience.” *

And that’s what Ruth Bell Graham chose to have written on her gravestone:

End of Construction. Thank you for your patience.”

Leonard Ravenhill, a well-known revivalist of the last century, had these words written on his gravestone:

“Are the things you are living for,
Worth the things Christ died for?”

John Maxwell wants these words written on his gravestone:

“Here lies a man who lived with purpose and intentionality.”

Jehoram (a king in the Old Testament)  had these words left by others on his gravestone:

“He passed away to no one’s regret.”

The words on my late wife’s gravestone are:

“In Christ, With Christ.”

The words I want on my gravestone are:

“He died leaning forward.”

How about you?  What will yours be?


C.S. Lewis put it this way:

“The Christians who did the most for the present world were just those who thought the most of the next…It is in since Christians have largely ceased to think of the other world that they have become so ineffective in this one. Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in; aim at earth and you will get neither.”

So when you come to the end of your life, what do you want people to say about you? What words do you want written on your gravestone?

It’s an honest, probing, important question.

Sincerely submitted,
Ken L Roberts

Please leave a comment: If you have an idea of what you want written on your gravestone—I’d love to hear it. Leave a comment in the section below. Thanks!

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*Material from John Ortberg’s book, Soul Keeping, p 151

Photo of Ruth Bell Graham used under fair use.
“Gravestone of Ruth Bell Graham” by Billy Hathorn licensed under CC BY 3.0.

Do You Have A Personal Compass? Everyone Needs One!

If you don’t know where you’re going, guess what? You’re lost! – Anonymous

A few years back, my wife and I got lost. Really lost!

We were staying in a cabin in a remote area in northern Minnesota, got up one morning and randomly decided to take a hike. We drove to what we thought was a marked trail head, and headed out for a few hours of a leisurely hike.

Several hours later we started having that gnawing feeling that we might be lost. We weren’t sure, but that unsettling feeling was settling in on both of us.

The uncertainty intensified. Should we take the trail verging off to the right or should we stay on the trail we’re on and forge ahead? Should turn around and try to retrace the several turns we had already made? Should we should forge ahead and see if this was one long loop that would eventually take us back to where we started?

I tried to trace the arc of the sun and figure out what direction we were headed, but realized my Boy Scout survival skills had vanished years ago.

Then I had a  brilliant thought. 

I took my iPhone out, hit the on button, waited for a few seconds and hurrah, I miraculously I had two bars showing a faint sign of cellular service.

My wife and I knew we had started on the trailhead from the north and had headed south. I pulled up the compass on my iPhone and set it due north. Sure enough, several hours later, just before dark, we arrived back at our car.

Knowing your  life purpose is similar to having your own personal compass.
It gives you a basic direction to head throughout your entire life journey.

Life knocks all of us around. Sometime so much that we can loose our way in life. But when we have a clear North Star—our own life purpose —it’s like having a personal compass so we can continue to find our way.

So what about you?

  • Do you ever feel lost in life?
  • Feel like you’re moving in this direction for a while and then moving in that direction?
  • Do you  have a personal North Star?
  • Do you have a personal compass?
  • Do you know your life purpose?

If you already know your personal life purpose, keep moving in that direction.

If you don’t yet have one, these related posts below can hopefully help.

Living On Purpose,
Ken L Roberts


Do You Feel Stuck In Your Spiritual Growth? If so, check this out.

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Do you feel like you’re falling short in your spiritual growth?

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During these last twenty years, I’ve observed three consistent challenges to a person’s spiritual growth.

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  • A sense of Failure in our spiritual growth.

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Let Me Introduce You To Someone Special

In this week’s blog, I want to introduce you to someone who I think is pretty special.

I’ve known her for many years and recently had the privilege of being her coach—helping her as she’s moving into her next season of life and ministry.

Her consistent walk with Jesus, her ongoing personal, professional, and spiritual growth, and her desire to make a significant contribution in the lives of others are extremely inspirational.

This week she launched her new website and posted her first blog.  Give it a read.  

I know you’ll be glad you did.

“…From Strength to Strength…”

The New and Next Season



If I can help you as you move into your new and next season of life, I’d be honored.

Check out my Life-Focus Coaching services and contact me for an introductory enrollment conversation. 

Committed to living my life on purpose and helping others do the same,

Ken L Roberts  


3 Easy Ways To Predict Your 2017!

I don’t have any supernatural-psychic powers. I can’t tell you who you are going to marry, how long you’re going to live, or if you’ll win the lotto. But I can give you a pretty good idea of what your 2017 and years to come will be like.

Here’s how:

1. Show me your checkbook and your calendar, and I can predict your future.

It’s really not that hard.

Who you and I will be tomorrow we are becoming that person today. Who we will be tomorrow is determined (largely, not exclusively) by what we are investing in today.

Where we are putting our time and money determines who we will be tomorrow. That principle applies to our spiritual life, our personal life, our marriage and family life, our professional life, our finances, our health, and our relationships.

The same principle that applies in nature applies to our future. The seed we sow today will determine the fruit we harvest tomorrow. It’s really that simple.

2. Tell me about your habits, and I can predict your future.

One author  clearly spelled this principle out this way, “People do not decide their futures; they decide their habits, and their habits decide their futures.”

This axiom is so true! The habits we build today will determine the futures we have tomorrow. It’s not our good intentions that determine our future, nor is it a short season of inspiration, and it’s certainly not a stroke of good luck. None of these determine our future. It’s our habits. It’s those things we do day after day after day.

As I recently heard someone say, “Time on task, over time, will beat inspiration every time.” That’s habit.

3. Show me your friends, and I can predict your future.

It’s been said that if you take a person’s five closest friends and average their income, 90 percent of the time that will be the your average income as well. This blog isn’t about money, but the principle still holds true.  The people around us influence us. They either influence us to maintain our status quo, or they pull us down a direction we may not want to go, or they push us and inspire us in a direction we do want to go.

So now that you know I’m not a psychic—and my guess is neither are you—yet you can still predict your future. So reflect on these 3 ways and then consider; what will your 2017 and years to come be like?

If I can help you live a more purposeful and productive 2017, check out my Life-Focus Coaching services and contact me for a FREE consultation.

Anticipating a Purposeful and Productive 2017,
Ken L Roberts


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