I Did It And I’m Sooo Glad I Did!
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A few years ago I made a HUGE life-changing decision and I’m sooo glad I did!

I decided to take the plunge and move into my sweet spot. It was a BIG STEP with some BIG RISK, but I’m so glad I did it.

Here’s Why:

  • I wanted to beat the odds

According to research, only 20% of leaders ever make it into what’s called “convergence.” It’s when your gifts, passions, temperament, and life experiences all come together and you start living out of your “sweet spot.” Yep, you hear that number right; only about 20% ever make it there.

I didn’t want to be a part of that 80% so I made a very clear decision to move toward and eventually into my sweet spot. And I’m loving it!

  • I wanted to live every day with passion connected to my purpose

I knew I could continue pastoring for several more years and probably still do a reasonably good job at it, but I knew that’s what I wasn’t suppose to do. I knew I needed to narrow my focus so I could make a more meaningful contribution in the next season of my life. So I started asking myself the question, What ‘s the greatest contribution I can make and have to make for others, over the nexts 15 to 20 years of my life? I knew these were three nails I wanted to hit for the rest of my life:

  • Helping people live a more focused and purposeful life

  • Helping pastors live well while they lead well

  • Helping local churches in their ongoing health and growth.

  • I wanted greater freedom and flexibility

I’ll never forget when I was working with an executive coach who was helping me discover my sweet spot. One day he asked me, “So Ken, what do you want to do with the rest of your life?” After I told him he said, “So what are you waiting on?” He said, “You know a lot of people wait until they retire and then think they’ll start doing what they really want to do.” But he said, “That’s stupid. Don’t wait, start heading in that direction now!” So that’s what I did. doing it now.

  • I wanted to be closer to my family

When I made the decision (over four years ago) to move into my sweet spot, I was living 12 hours away from my nearest family. So as part of this process of moving into my convergence, I moved from Minneapolis Minnesota back to Cleveland, Ohio to be closer to most of my family. And oh how rewarding the move has been. The opportunity to be with my two grandsons (pictured above) is priceless.

I’m living out of my sweet spot, make a living doing it, making a meaningful contribution to many, having greater freedom and flexibility - and being with family. Now, that’s a pretty blessed life!

What Does All This Have To Do With You?

What does all this have to do with you? That’s a legit question.

I think the answer is simple:

  • Are you living your life with purpose and passion?

  • Do you know what your sweet spot is and are living out of it or at least moving in that direction?

  • Are you making the meaningful contribution to life in this season of your life that you desire to?

I’d Love To Help

If you’re not sure you’re living your life with purpose or not even sure what your sweet spot is or how to move in that direction, I’d love to help.

Simply hit the link below and book a free, no obligation, coaching session with me, or if you prefer call me on my cell at 216-374-0016 and let’s talk. I’ve helped hundreds of people through this process of finding and moving into their sweet spot and I’d love to do the same for you.


Living On Purpose

Ken

P.S. Don’t delay. Hit the button below and book your free, no obligation, coaching call or call me at 216-374-0016.

Ken Roberts
Two Key Benefits Of Having A Personal Growth Coach
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I trust you've had a GREAT summer and are gearing up for a GREAT fall!

I know you're busy so I'll be brief

With kids back in school, vacations and family reunions over, and with weekend trips to the lake or family cabin coming to a close, many of us are looking to get back into some kind of productive and purposeful routine.

Two Key Benefits Of Having A Personal Growth Coach

As I've coached hundreds of people over the past 3 years, I've noticed two primary benefits of having a personal growth coach.

First, There’s a commitment to a PROCESS

Many times we want to grow, but "life gets in the way." But when you've made a commitment of time, effort, and money into a coaching process, you know that at least once a month your coaching is going to be connecting with you to help you get where you want to go. That's a huge benefit to having a personal life-focus coach.

Second, There’s a commitment in a mutual PARTNERSHIP

Having someone walking with you in the direction you want to go is also huge. Having a coach who can draw things out of you, give you ideas, offer encouragement and inspiration, be a sounding board, keep you on track according to where you want to go and so on, is also extremely invaluable.

In fact, do you know that the stats show if you're working on a goal with someone else, the chances of you reaching your goal goes from 15% (if you try to do it on your own) up to 75 to 80% (if you have someone working with you and walking with you as you move toward that goal)? That's HUGE.

A Special Offer:

I'm working on my coaching schedule for the fall and have a few coaching spots still available, so I'm offering a 3 month (October through December), once a month, one hour coaching session (via zoom) for just $155 a month.

That's 50% off my normal coaching cost.

Here's why I'm offering this special fall offer:

  • I only have a few coaching spots still available

  • I don't want finances to be a deterrent to anyone who really wants coaching

  • I usually only offer a 6 month or 12 month coaching package at much higher rates

  • I want to help you move from where you’re at to where you want to go

Next Steps:

If you are interested simply email me at Ken@kenlroberts.com and or call me on my cell at 216-374-0016 and we'll go from there.

However, if I could hear back from you by September 15th, that way we can get our initial call set up and our first coaching session scheduled for sometime in the month of October.

Living On Purpose,

Ken L Roberts
https://kenlroberts.com/

P.S. If I can serve you, I'd be honored to do so.
Email me at Ken@KenLRoberts.com or
Call me on my cell at 216-374-0016

I Got Smacked - Again - Today!
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A few months back I wrote a blog about getting smacked. Read it Here:

It happened again today!

I was having a tough week. Things weren’t going in the direction I wanted them to go, or as fast as I thought they should go. I had been whining, feeling sorry for myself. The “blue funk cloud” was circling.

I was on the phone with a guy I was coaching and he said something that hit me hard. Just in passing he said,

“Our measure of entitlement has direct correlation to our measure of joy.”

Wow! Ouch! Smack!

As soon as I heard it, I had to admit, I was guilty. Much of my lack of joy was directly tied to what I thought I was owed. By God. From Others. From my own hard work.

A few days later I was reading from an author who reinforced this same idea. He wrote:

Have you ever noticed that people who are self-focused and narcissistic are usually really unhappy, if not depressed? But have you also noticed that people who are generally others-focused and more selfless are usually very happy? When we’re down, one of the best things we can do is serve somebody else. It’s the backdoor to joy. And it’s always unlocked. *

Smacked again!

So let me ask you:

  • What’s your current level of entitlement?

  • How’s your current level of joy?

Are the two of them, in any way, related to your current state of appreciation and gratitude for the life you’ve been given and the kind of life your currently living? Just something to think about.

Instead of my coaching client paying me that day, I should have paid him (I didn’t !). But what he said really hit me hard and it continues to help me with my level of joy even today.

I trust it will help you as well.

Living on Purpose

Ken
P.S. - In the next few weeks, keep your eye out for a special coaching opportunity, that I’ve never offered. If you’ve ever wanted to have a coach but weren’t sure you could afford it, this maybe your opportunity.

*The quote is from Garden City, by John Mark Comer, p279

An Often Overlooked And Very Common Remedy To Fighting Burnout In Life and Leadership
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Most of us know the story of Diana Nyad,

Diana Nyad, at the age of 64 and after five previous attempts, finally completed her 53 hour, 110 mile swim from Havana Cuba to Key West Florida. It made national and international news. 

But few of us know the story of Florence Chadwick. 

Florence Chadwick, at the age of 34, stepped into the icy cold Pacific Ocean and started her 21 mile swim from Catalina Island to the California coast. However, 15 hours into her swim a fog set in so thick she could barely see the safety boats flanking her. 

In the midst of the fog, she began to doubt. 

She called out to her mother in one of the boats only a few feet away, “I have to stop. I can’t make it.” Her mother called back, “Yes you can. Keep going. The shore is within reach! Keep going.” 

But her mom’s encouragement wasn’t enough.

Disoriented by the fog and overcome with physical and emotional exhaustion, Florence simply stopped swimming. 

She was pulled out of the water an into one of the safety boats, and it was only then, feeling deflated and defeated, that Florence learned she was less than a half mile from shore. That’s right! Almost there. Less than a half mile from her desired destination. In an interview the following day, Florence told the media “All I could see was the fog. If I could have seen the shore, I would have made it.” 

How does this apply to you and me?

Florence Chadwick’s story illustrates a key principle for fighting doubt and discouragement in life and leadership. The vision we have in our head, determines the direction we go, and the direction we go determines who we further become and what we further accomplish. 

Like Florence, without a clear picture of our destination we lose perspective,
and without perspective, we lose perseverance. 

So let me ask you, 

  • Are you feeling fogged in? Disoriented? Deflated? Defeated? 

  • Are you physically and emotionally exhausted? 

  • Are you thinking about quitting; getting out of the boat and giving up? 

If so, let me encourage you to return to the vision in your heart and in your head. Keep looking up. Keep moving toward. You may be closer to your desired destination than you think! 

Let’s talk 

If you find yourself in a difficult season of life or leadership and need to talk, I'd love to connect. Either schedule a call below or email me at Ken@KenLRoberts.com and let’s talk!

Until Then, Living and Leading On Purpose,

Ken L Roberts

Ken Roberts
Death of Cake
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My goals for 2019 were:

Eat better
Drink more water
Get more exercise

I’m a pretty good goal getter, but this has been hard.

I started out the year doing a 21 day fast of no sugar and felt awesome!

So awesome, I kept going another 60 days. Then my son had his 11th birthday and you know how that goes! I allowed myself a small piece of cake. Even though I had been saying for weeks , “I just know if I allow myself to eat that stuff again, it will eat me alive,” …and I was right!

Last Monday was 43 days since I ate that first tiny slice of cake. And on Monday I ate 3 whole pieces of cake while watching a series on Netflix. ( I can’t believe I’m actually confessing this!). My bad!

So, what do you do when your goals go to pot and you have to start all over?

Let me give you three quick thoughts:

  • Admit you have a problem and ask for help

Monday night I went to bed and I said, “Lord, I’m usually really good at this goal stuff. I can’t do this without your power and strength. I need you Lord to take control of my will and bend it toward yours.”

Some of you may be thinking “who cares!
If you want to eat three pieces then eat three pieces!”

That’s the problem, I didn’t want to eat them.

I was compelled to do it. It was a fierce, fervor of overt desire to eat it. Listen, my word for the year is DELIGHT. Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. So, I understand that this desire of my heart, that is cake, did not come from a delighting in the Lord. It was coming from delighting in Netflix. My snack life surrounds the act of binge watching TV.

  • Listen for the help you asked for

Tuesday, I woke up and had the thought to make a protein shake for breakfast and take some yogurt with bananas and strawberries with me to work.

When the Lord gives you tips, you have to act on them. According to Mel Robbins, “we have 5 seconds to act on a thought, instinct, intuition, or prompting before it is lost. The 5 second rule is a tool for hyper-intentionality, action, and identifying moments in your life where there is tremendous opportunity and joy.”

I had the opportunity to drive my day a certain way and end the day feeling the joy of accomplishing what I set out to do.

  • Thank God for every step of victory

Today is Wednesday! Yesterday I drank the recommended amount of water, I ate food that at the end of the day I didn’t go to bed feeling awful, and I even got a walk in. Today I am so thankful.

Why did I ever think that I could do this without God?

Obviously, I’m crazy and think something awesome about myself, but to be totally honest, all three of these areas I have failed in for 20 years. I’m done failing.

I praise God for His power and strength. I thank Him for the Holy Spirit who speaks, leads, directs, corrects and convicts. I need it!

 1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it”.

I don’t know how to overcome unless I lean on the victory Jesus has already provided for me. This is my declaration: I lean on the Lord to help me overcome and rise above any desire that my body craves that is not rooted and grounded in Christ.

Today I declare the death of cake in my life! You shall not overtake me! I trust you’ll do the same!

Living On Purpose

Starla Smith
PS: You can read more of Starla’s blogs at
https://sunday2monday.blog/

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Starla Smith is the NextGen Pastor of Springs of Life Church, in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. She is a wife, and mother of two. She loves writing, worship, coffee dates with friends, and she is passionate about learning and sharing life’s everyday lessons.